陈道明白发照曝光：人活到极致，就是在别人看不到的地方节制

发布时间：2020-11-01 20:22:01来源：树儿微刊

WhenPaulJobswasmusteredoutoftheCoastGuardafterWorldWarII,hemadeawagerwithhiscrewmates.TheyhadarrivedinSanFrancisco,wheretheirshipwasdecommissioned,andPaulbetthathewouldfindhimselfawifewithintwoweeks.Hewasataut,tattooedenginemechanic,sixfeettall,withapassingresemblancetoJamesDean.Butitwasn’thislooksthatgothimadatewithClaraHagopian,asweet-humoreddaughterofArmenianimmigrants.Itwasthefactthatheandhisfriendshadacar,unlikethegroupshehadoriginallyplannedtogooutwiththatevening.Tendayslater,inMarch1946,PaulgotengagedtoClaraandwonhiswager.Itwouldturnouttobeahappymarriage,onethatlasteduntildeathpartedthemmorethanfortyyearslater.PaulReinholdJobshadbeenraisedonadairyfarminGermantown,Wisconsin.Eventhoughhisfatherwasanalcoholicandsometimesabusive,Paulendedupwithagentleandcalmdispositionunderhisleatheryexterior.Afterdroppingoutofhighschool,hewanderedthroughtheMidwestpickingupworkasamechanicuntil,atagenineteen,hejoinedtheCoastGuard,eventhoughhedidn’tknowhowtoswim.HewasdeployedontheUSSGeneralM.C.MeigsandspentmuchofthewarferryingtroopstoItalyforGeneralPatton.Histalentasamachinistandfiremanearnedhimcommendations,butheoccasionallyfoundhimselfinminortroubleandneverroseabovetherankofseaman.ClarawasborninNewJersey,whereherparentshadlandedafterfleeingtheTurksinArmenia,andtheymovedtotheMissionDistrictofSanFranciscowhenshewasachild.Shehadasecretthatsherarelymentionedtoanyone:Shehadbeenmarriedbefore,butherhusbandhadbeenkilledinthewar.SowhenshemetPaulJobsonthatfirstdate,shewasprimedtostartanewlife.Likemanywholivedthroughthewar,theyhadexperiencedenoughexcitementthat,whenitwasover,theydesiredsimplytosettledown,raiseafamily,andleadalesseventfullife.Theyhadlittlemoney,sotheymovedtoWisconsinandlivedwithPaul’sparentsforafewyears,thenheadedforIndiana,wherehegotajobasamachinistforInternationalHarvester.Hispassionwastinkeringwitholdcars,andhemademoneyinhissparetimebuying,restoring,andsellingthem.Eventuallyhequithisdayjobtobecomeafull-timeusedcarsalesman.Clara,however,lovedSanFrancisco,andin1952sheconvincedherhusbandtomovebackthere.TheygotanapartmentintheSunsetDistrictfacingthePacific,justsouthofGoldenGatePark,andhetookajobworkingforafinancecompanyasa“repoman,”pickingthelocksofcarswhoseownershadn’tpaidtheirloansandrepossessingthem.Healsobought,repaired,andsoldsomeofthecars,makingadecentenoughlivingintheprocess.Therewas,however,somethingmissingintheirlives.Theywantedchildren,butClarahadsufferedanectopicpregnancy,inwhichthefertilizedeggwasimplantedinafallopiantuberatherthantheuterus,andshehadbeenunabletohaveany.Soby1955,afternineyearsofmarriage,theywerelookingtoadoptachild.LikePaulJobs,JoanneSchieblewasfromaruralWisconsinfamilyofGermanheritage.Herfather,ArthurSchieble,hadimmigratedtotheoutskirtsofGreenBay,whereheandhiswifeownedaminkfarmanddabbledsuccessfullyinvariousotherbusinesses,includingrealestateandphotoengraving.Hewasverystrict,especiallyregardinghisdaughter’srelationships,andhehadstronglydisapprovedofherfirstlove,anartistwhowasnotaCatholic.ThusitwasnosurprisethathethreatenedtocutJoanneoffcompletelywhen,asagraduatestudentattheUniversityofWisconsin,shefellinlovewithAbdulfattah“John”Jandali,aMuslimteachingassistantfromSyria.JandaliwastheyoungestofninechildreninaprominentSyrianfamily.Hisfatherownedoilrefineriesandmultipleotherbusinesses,withlargeholdingsinDamascusandHoms,andatonepointprettymuchcontrolledthepriceofwheatintheregion.Hismother,helatersaid,wasa“traditionalMuslimwoman”whowasa“conservative,obedienthousewife.”LiketheSchieblefamily,theJandalisputapremiumoneducation.AbdulfattahwassenttoaJesuitboardingschool,eventhoughhewasMuslim,andhegotanundergraduatedegreeattheAmericanUniversityinBeirutbeforeenteringtheUniversityofWisconsintopursueadoctoraldegreeinpoliticalscience.Inthesummerof1954,JoannewentwithAbdulfattahtoSyria.TheyspenttwomonthsinHoms,whereshelearnedfromhisfamilytocookSyriandishes.WhentheyreturnedtoWisconsinshediscoveredthatshewaspregnant.Theywerebothtwenty-three,buttheydecidednottogetmarried.Herfatherwasdyingatthetime,andhehadthreatenedtodisownherifshewedAbdulfattah.NorwasabortionaneasyoptioninasmallCatholiccommunity.Soinearly1955,JoannetraveledtoSanFrancisco,whereshewastakenintothecareofakindlydoctorwhoshelteredunwedmothers,deliveredtheirbabies,andquietlyarrangedclosedadoptions.Joannehadonerequirement:Herchildmustbeadoptedbycollegegraduates.Sothedoctorarrangedforthebabytobeplacedwithalawyerandhiswife.Butwhenaboywasborn—onFebruary24,1955—thedesignatedcoupledecidedthattheywantedagirlandbackedout.Thusitwasthattheboybecamethesonnotofalawyerbutofahighschooldropoutwithapassionformechanicsandhissalt-of-the-earthwifewhowasworkingasabookkeeper.PaulandClaranamedtheirnewbabyStevenPaulJobs.WhenJoannefoundoutthatherbabyhadbeenplacedwithacouplewhohadnotevengraduatedfromhighschool,sherefusedtosigntheadoptionpapers.Thestandofflastedweeks,evenafterthebabyhadsettledintotheJobshousehold.EventuallyJoannerelented,withthestipulationthatthecouplepromise—indeedsignapledge—tofundasavingsaccounttopayfortheboy’scollegeeducation.TherewasanotherreasonthatJoannewasbalkyaboutsigningtheadoptionpapers.Herfatherwasabouttodie,andsheplannedtomarryJandalisoonafter.Sheheldouthope,shewouldlatertellfamilymembers,sometimestearingupatthememory,thatoncetheyweremarried,shecouldgettheirbabyboyback.ArthurSchieblediedinAugust1955,aftertheadoptionwasfinalized.JustafterChristmasthatyear,JoanneandAbdulfattahweremarriedinSt.PhiliptheApostleCatholicChurchinGreenBay.HegothisPhDininternationalpoliticsthenextyear,andthentheyhadanotherchild,agirlnamedMona.AftersheandJandalidivorcedin1962,Joanneembarkedonadreamyandperipateticlifethatherdaughter,whogrewuptobecometheacclaimednovelistMonaSimpson,wouldcaptureinherbookAnywherebutHere.BecauseSteve’sadoptionhadbeenclosed,itwouldbetwentyyearsbeforetheywouldallfindeachother.SteveJobsknewfromanearlyagethathewasadopted.“Myparentswereveryopenwithmeaboutthat,”herecalled.Hehadavividmemoryofsittingonthelawnofhishouse,whenhewassixorsevenyearsold,tellingthegirlwholivedacrossthestreet.“Sodoesthatmeanyourrealparentsdidn’twantyou?”thegirlasked.“Lightningboltswentoffinmyhead,”accordingtoJobs.“Irememberrunningintothehouse,crying.Andmyparentssaid,‘No,youhavetounderstand.’Theywereveryseriousandlookedmestraightintheeye.Theysaid,‘Wespecificallypickedyouout.’Bothofmyparentssaidthatandrepeateditslowlyforme.Andtheyputanemphasisoneverywordinthatsentence.”Abandoned.Chosen.Special.ThoseconceptsbecamepartofwhoJobswasandhowheregardedhimself.Hisclosestfriendsthinkthattheknowledgethathewasgivenupatbirthleftsomescars.“Ithinkhisdesireforcompletecontrolofwhateverhemakesderivesdirectlyfromhispersonalityandthefactthathewasabandonedatbirth,”saidonelongtimecolleague,DelYocam.“Hewantstocontrolhisenvironment,andheseestheproductasanextensionofhimself.”GregCalhoun,whobecameclosetoJobsrightaftercollege,sawanothereffect.“Stevetalkedtomealotaboutbeingabandonedandthepainthatcaused,”hesaid.“Itmadehimindependent.Hefollowedthebeatofadifferentdrummer,andthatcamefrombeinginadifferentworldthanhewasborninto.”Laterinlife,whenhewasthesameagehisbiologicalfatherhadbeenwhenheabandonedhim,Jobswouldfatherandabandonachildofhisown.(Heeventuallytookresponsibilityforher.)ChrisannBrennan,themotherofthatchild,saidthatbeingputupforadoptionleftJobs“fullofbrokenglass,”andithelpstoexplainsomeofhisbehavior.“Hewhoisabandonedisanabandoner,”shesaid.AndyHertzfeld,whoworkedwithJobsatAppleintheearly1980s,isamongthefewwhoremainedclosetobothBrennanandJobs.“ThekeyquestionaboutSteveiswhyhecan’tcontrolhimselfattimesfrombeingsoreflexivelycruelandharmfultosomepeople,”hesaid.“Thatgoesbacktobeingabandonedatbirth.TherealunderlyingproblemwasthethemeofabandonmentinSteve’slife.”Jobsdismissedthis.“There’ssomenotionthatbecauseIwasabandoned,IworkedveryhardsoIcoulddowellandmakemyparentswishtheyhadmeback,orsomesuchnonsense,butthat’sridiculous,”heinsisted.“KnowingIwasadoptedmayhavemademefeelmoreindependent,butIhaveneverfeltabandoned.I’vealwaysfeltspecial.Myparentsmademefeelspecial.”HewouldlaterbristlewheneveranyonereferredtoPaulandClaraJobsashis“adoptive”parentsorimpliedthattheywerenothis“real”parents.“Theyweremyparents1,000%,”hesaid.Whenspeakingabouthisbiologicalparents,ontheotherhand,hewascurt:“Theyweremyspermandeggbank.That’snotharsh,it’sjustthewayitwas,aspermbankthing,nothingmore.”SiliconValleyThechildhoodthatPaulandClaraJobscreatedfortheirnewsonwas,inmanyways,astereotypeofthelate1950s.WhenStevewastwotheyadoptedagirltheynamedPatty,andthreeyearslatertheymovedtoatracthouseinthesuburbs.ThefinancecompanywherePaulworkedasarepoman,CIT,hadtransferredhimdowntoitsPaloAltooffice,buthecouldnotaffordtolivethere,sotheylandedinasubdivisioninMountainView,alessexpensivetownjusttothesouth.TherePaultriedtopassalonghisloveofmechanicsandcars.“Steve,thisisyourworkbenchnow,”hesaidashemarkedoffasectionofthetableintheirgarage.Jobsrememberedbeingimpressedbyhisfather’sfocusoncraftsmanship.“Ithoughtmydad’ssenseofdesignwasprettygood,”hesaid,“becauseheknewhowtobuildanything.Ifweneededacabinet,hewouldbuildit.Whenhebuiltourfence,hegavemeahammersoIcouldworkwithhim.”FiftyyearslaterthefencestillsurroundsthebackandsideyardsofthehouseinMountainView.AsJobsshoweditofftome,hecaressedthestockadepanelsandrecalledalessonthathisfatherimplanteddeeplyinhim.Itwasimportant,hisfathersaid,tocraftthebacksofcabinetsandfencesproperly,eventhoughtheywerehidden.“Heloveddoingthingsright.Heevencaredaboutthelookofthepartsyoucouldn’tsee.”Hisfathercontinuedtorefurbishandresellusedcars,andhefestoonedthegaragewithpicturesofhisfavorites.Hewouldpointoutthedetailingofthedesigntohisson:thelines,thevents,thechrome,thetrimoftheseats.Afterworkeachday,hewouldchangeintohisdungareesandretreattothegarage,oftenwithStevetaggingalong.“IfiguredIcouldgethimnaileddownwithalittlemechanicalability,buthereallywasn’tinterestedingettinghishandsdirty,”Paullaterrecalled.“Heneverreallycaredtoomuchaboutmechanicalthings.”“Iwasn’tthatintofixingcars,”Jobsadmitted.“ButIwaseagertohangoutwithmydad.”Evenashewasgrowingmoreawarethathehadbeenadopted,hewasbecomingmoreattachedtohisfather.Onedaywhenhewasabouteight,hediscoveredaphot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companymakingtechnicalinstruments.Fortunatelytherewasaplacenearbyforentrepreneurswhohadoutgrowntheirgarages.Inamovethatwouldhelptransformtheareaintothecradleofthetechrevolution,StanfordUniversity’sdeanofengineering,FrederickTerman,createdaseven-hundred-acreindustrialparkonuniversitylandforprivatecompaniesthatcouldcommercializetheideasofhisstudents.ItsfirsttenantwasVarianAssociates,whereClaraJobsworked.“Termancameupwiththisgreatideathatdidmorethananythingtocausethetechindustrytogrowuphere,”Jobssaid.BythetimeJobswasten,HPhadninethousandemployeesandwastheblue-chipcompanywhereeveryengineerseekingfinancialstabilitywantedtowork.Themostimportanttechnologyfortheregion’sgrowthwas,ofcourse,thesemiconductor.WilliamShockley,whohadbeenoneoftheinventorsofthetransistoratBellLabsinNewJersey,movedouttoMountainViewand,in1956,startedacompanytobuildtransistorsusingsiliconratherthanthemoreexpensivegermaniumthatwasthencommonlyused.ButShockleybecameincreasinglyerraticandabandonedhissilicontransistorproject,whichledeightofhisengineers—mostnotablyRobertNoyceandGordonMoore—tobreakawaytoformFairchildSemiconductor.Thatcompanygrewtotwelvethousandemployees,butitfragmentedin1968,whenNoycelostapowerstruggletobecomeCEO.HetookGordonMooreandfoundedacompanythattheycalledIntegratedElectronicsCorporation,whichtheysoonsmartlyabbreviatedtoIntel.TheirthirdemployeewasAndrewGrove,wholaterwouldgrowthecompanybyshiftingitsfocusfrommemorychipstomicroprocessors.Withinafewyearstherewouldbemorethanfiftycompaniesintheareamakingsemiconductors.TheexponentialgrowthofthisindustrywascorrelatedwiththephenomenonfamouslydiscoveredbyMoore,whoin1965drewagraphofthespeedofintegratedcircuits,basedonthenumberoftransistorsthatcouldbeplacedonachip,andshowedthatitdoubledabouteverytwoyears,atrajectorythatcouldbeexpectedtocontinue.Thiswasreaffirmedin1971,whenIntelwasabletoetchacompletecentralprocessingunitontoonechip,theIntel4004,whichwasdubbeda“microprocessor.”Moore’sLawhasheldgenerallytruetothisday,anditsreliableprojectionofperformancetopriceallowedtwogenerationsofyoungentrepreneurs,includingSteveJobsandBillGates,tocreatecostprojectionsfortheirforward-leaningproducts.ThechipindustrygavetheregionanewnamewhenDonHoefler,acolumnistfortheweeklytradepaperElectronicNews,beganaseriesinJanuary1971entitled“SiliconValleyUSA.”Theforty-mileSantaClaraValley,whichstretchesfromSouthSanFranciscothroughPaloAltotoSanJose,hasasitscommercialbackboneElCaminoReal,theroyalroadthatonceconnectedCalifornia’stwenty-onemissionchurchesandisnowabustlingavenuethatconnectscompaniesandstartupsaccountingforathirdoftheventurecapitalinvestmentintheUnitedStateseachyear.“Growingup,Igotinspiredbythehistoryoftheplace,”Jobssaid.“Thatmademewanttobeapartofit.”Likemostkids,hebecameinfusedwiththepassionsofthegrown-upsaroundhim.“Mostofthedadsintheneighborhooddidreallyneatstuff,likephotovoltaicsandbatteriesandradar,”Jobsrecalled.“Igrewupinaweofthatstuffandaskingpeopleaboutit.”Themostimportantoftheseneighbors,LarryLang,livedsevendoorsaway.“HewasmymodelofwhatanHPengineerwassupposedtobe:abighamradiooperator,hard-coreelectronicsguy,”Jobsrecalled.“Hewouldbringmestufftoplaywith.”AswewalkeduptoLang’soldhouse,Jobspointedtothedriveway.“Hetookacarbonmicrophoneandabatteryandaspeaker,andheputitonthisdriveway.Hehadmetalkintothecarbonmikeanditamplifiedoutofthespeaker.”Jobshadbeentaughtbyhisfatherthatmicrophonesalwaysrequiredanelectronicamplifier.“SoIracedhome,andItoldmydadthathewaswrong.”“No,itneedsanamplifier,”hisfatherassuredhim.WhenSteveprotestedotherwise,hisfathersaidhewascrazy.“Itcan’tworkwithoutanamplifier.There’ssometrick.”“Ikeptsayingnotomydad,tellinghimhehadtoseeit,andfinallyheactuallywalkeddownwithmeandsawit.Andhesaid,‘WellI’llbeabatoutofhell.’”Jobsrecalledtheincidentvividlybecauseitwashisfirstrealizationthathisfatherdidnotknoweverything.Thenamoredisconcertingdiscoverybegantodawnonhim:Hewassmarterthanhisparents.Hehadalwaysadmiredhisfather’scompetenceandsavvy.“Hewasnotaneducatedman,butIhadalwaysthoughthewasprettydamnsmart.Hedidn’treadmuch,buthecoulddoalot.Almosteverythingmechanical,hecouldfigureitout.”Yetthecarbonmicrophoneincident,Jobssaid,beganajarringprocessofrealizingthathewasinfactmorecleverandquickthanhisparents.“Itwasaverybigmomentthat’sburnedintomymind.WhenIrealizedthatIwassmarterthanmyparents,Ifelttremendousshameforhavingthoughtthat.Iwillneverforgetthatmoment.”Thisdiscovery,helatertoldfriends,alongwiththefactthathewasadopted,madehimfeelapart—detachedandseparate—frombothhisfamilyandtheworld.Anotherlayerofawarenessoccurredsoonafter.Notonlydidhediscoverthathewasbrighterthanhisparents,buthediscoveredthattheyknewthis.PaulandClaraJobswerelovingparents,andtheywerewillingtoadapttheirlivestosuitasonwhowasverysmart—andalsowillful.Theywouldgotogreatlengthstoaccommodatehim.AndsoonStevediscoveredthisfactaswell.“Bothmyparentsgotme.TheyfeltalotofresponsibilityoncetheysensedthatIwasspecial.Theyfoundwaystokeepfeedingmestuffandputtingmeinbetterschools.Theywerewillingtodefertomyneeds.”Sohegrewupnotonlywithasenseofhavingoncebeenabandoned,butalsowithasensethathewasspecial.Inhisownmind,thatwasmoreimportantintheformationofhispersonality.SchoolEvenbeforeJobsstartedelementaryschool,hismotherhadtaughthimhowtoread.This,however,ledtosomeproblemsoncehegottoschool.“Iwaskindofboredforthefirstfewyears

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观自在菩萨，行深般若波罗蜜多时，照见五蕴皆空，度一切苦厄。舍利子，色不异空，空不异色，色即是空，空即是色，受想行识，亦复如是。舍利子，是诸法空相，不生不灭，不垢不净，不增不减。是故空中无色，无受想行识，无眼耳鼻舌身意，无色声香味触法，无眼界，乃至无意识界，无无明，亦无无明尽，乃至无老死，亦无老死尽。无苦集灭道，无智亦无得。以无所得故。菩提萨埵，依般若波罗蜜多故，心无挂碍。无挂碍故，无有恐怖，远离颠倒梦想，究竟涅盘。三世诸佛，依般若波罗蜜多故，得阿耨多罗三藐三菩提。故知般若波罗蜜多，是大神咒，是大明咒，是无上咒，是无等等咒，能除一切苦，真实不虚。故说般若波罗蜜多咒，即说咒曰：揭谛揭谛，波罗揭谛，波罗僧揭谛，菩提萨婆诃。观自在菩萨，行深般若波罗蜜多时，照见五蕴皆空，度一切苦厄。舍利子，色不异空，空不异色，色即是空，空即是色，受想行识，亦复如是。舍利子，是诸法空相，不生不灭，不垢不净，不增不减。

一直以来和流量明星无关的陈道明上了热搜，竟然是因为白头发。看到照片后，很多人感慨：这还是那个坐在金銮殿上指点江山的康熙爷吗？其实，现实中陈道明已经65岁了，出道也已经30多年，可与其说他是个演员，不如说他是个文人，在纷繁嘈杂的娱乐圈，他出淤泥而不染，可以做到独善其身。他这样说：“我无奈于世道，世道也无奈于我。”

作者：小爱同学

来源：爱奇旅（ID:i-qilv）

人活着有三个层次：

第一个层次：活着。

第二个层次：体面地活着。

第三个层次：明白地活着。

世人皆醉我独醒，醒的那个人往往是最难的，陈道明算是其中一位。

道可道，非常道；明可明，非常明。

在喧嚣混沌的名利场，陈道明有他自己的“非常之明”。

什么是“非常之明”？陈道明说：

我觉得节制是人生最大的享受，物质的释放、精神的释放都很容易，但是难的是节制。

所以做人的最高意境是节制，而不是释放。

知世故而不世故，处江湖而远江湖。

节制二字，早已贯穿陈道明的人生哲学。